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Three key elements to joy — at any age

Retirement marks a significant shift in life’s rhythm. Certain life transitions — retirement, career changes, caregiving, or simply slowing down — invite us to reconsider what brings joy and meaning.

As daily work commitments disappear, responsibilities change, and suddenly, there’s more time to explore and redefine what truly matters.

While this newfound freedom can be exciting, it can also bring uncertainty and unexpected challenges.

Creating bridges between generations

For those over 60

This stage of life is about navigating shifting priorities, embracing new possibilities, and making sense of what comes next.

For those under 40

Understanding what your parents or grandparents are experiencing can strengthen your relationship and help bridge generational gaps.

So, what’s really on their minds?
Let’s take a closer look.

Common questions and challenges for retirees

When I start conversations with retirees, many have concerns about what’s going to happen next. As they transition into this new phase, many grapple with uncertainties; they want answers to common questions relating to their quality of life. Often, the following needs and desires are discussed among seniors as primary concerns:

→ Better mental and social health

→ Improved physical well-being

→ Reduced anxiety about stroke, cardiovascular disease, dementia, or death

→ Shorter hospital stays and fewer health complications

→ A longer, more fulfilling life.

For others, questions and challenges are more existential in nature. They ask themselves:

→ Do I want simplicity?

→ Am I making good choices with food, friends, and money?

→ Am I challenging my mind?

→ What feelings, tasks, or people am I avoiding?

→ What would make me excited to get out of bed?

→ Am I perfectly comfortable with the way things are?

Important Tip: If you’re over 60, write your responses to guide you. If you’re under 40, talk about joy, peace, contentment, or fulfillment with your parents or grandparents; it makes for a great conversation starter.

When you take the time to explore what truly brings you joy — at any age — the rewards are immeasurable. Let’s take a look at some of the key benefits.

The benefits of redefining fulfillment for retirees

Pursuing passions and a sense of purpose is linked to better physical health and reduced anxiety about aging, including lower risks of cardiovascular disease and dementia. Retirees who actively seek fulfillment have shorter hospital stays and longer, more vibrant lives.

But before forging a new path, it’s important to define passion, purpose, and meaning. Let’s look at how they differ, where they overlap, and how they offer you an opportunity to shape your life, your way.

Let’s start with passion — the easiest to understand.

What is passion

Passion is the intense enthusiasm or love for something that energizes you and fills your life with purpose. It acts as a driving force that motivates retirees to pursue their interests with vigor and joy.

Passion is usually short-term and can fluctuate with energy levels and personal circumstances. One day you feel incredibly passionate about a project or hobby, and the next day, that enthusiasm wanes. This is perfectly normal and is part of the human experience.

Let’s take a moment to explore what truly lights you up inside. Think back to the activities that once brought you joy. Think of something you loved as a child or a hobby you set aside. Or, give yourself permission to try something entirely new!

What’s something you’ve always wanted to do but never had the chance? Let’s brainstorm together!

List two or three things that truly excite you.

Finding ways to integrate these passions into your daily routine can keep you energized. But passion — because it fluctuates — can’t sustain you through the daily challenges of retirement.

You will need purpose to ground you and offer satisfaction over a longer period of time. This long-term, overarching view starts with understanding what purpose really means.

What is purpose

As life changes, so does the way we define what gives us direction and fulfillment. Purpose is about having a guiding force that helps us manage the ups and downs of life.

Purpose propels us forward and keeps us engaged. It’s the long-term motivation that drives our actions and provides a sense of direction. Unlike fleeting emotions or short-lived interests, purpose acts as a steady compass, helping us navigate challenges and persevere even when passions fade.

The mystery of human existence lies not just in staying alive, but in finding something to live for.

Fyodor Dostoevsky, Russian Novelist

At its core, purpose is about doing. Purpose is the what we want to achieve or strive for in life. It’s about setting an intention and working toward a meaningful objective.

What is meaning

While purpose drives action, meaning provides depth. The distinction between the two becomes clear when we explore the definition of meaning.

Meaning helps us interpret life. It gives significance to our journey and offers the why—the deeper understanding behind our experiences. Like a telescopic lens, meaning brings clarity.

To explore this further, meaning pertains to the significance or value we assign to our experiences and life events. It’s an internal process, reflecting how we interpret and make sense of the world around us.

What small step can you take today to bring more meaning into your life?

The distinction between passion, purpose, and meaning becomes even clearer when we compare them through everyday examples.

Everyday examples

Passion. Purpose, Meaning. All three ideas are important for our happiness and emotional health, helping us build a sense of who we are and where we’re going in life. Although they are closely connected, they are still uniquely distinct.

Let’s look at these differences with real-life examples.

Passion

Feeling passionate is about engaging in activities that bring excitement, joy, and a sense of aliveness to your life. It’s the spark that makes certain moments feel vibrant.

Passion can be found in any activity

Whether it’s tinkering with an old car, creating a gourmet meal, or getting immersed in nature, passion can be found in any activity, big or small. It’s not necessarily about long-term goals — it’s about feeling pure enjoyment in the moment.

Purpose

Purpose refers to the overarching goals or intentions that guide your actions. It’s about what you aim to achieve or contribute through your life and efforts. Unlike passion, which brings joy in the moment, purpose provides long-term direction and motivation.

For some, purpose takes the form of mentoring younger generations. Others find it through creative expression—art, music, writing—or by advocating for a cause, engaging in community service, or overcoming personal challenges.

If you’re drawn to curiosity and exploration without pressure, you might enjoy Unstructured Art—a gentle way to reconnect with play and discovery.

Combine different activities to create purpose

In my case, purpose includes:

Mentoring: Guiding and supporting others to help them grow and succeed.

Connection: Building and nurturing meaningful relationships.

Personal Growth: Continuously developing and improving my life.

These three activities, when combined, shape my decisions, influence the paths I pursue, and give my life a sense of direction and fulfillment.

Meaning

Meaning, on the other hand, relates to the significance or value you assign to your experiences and actions. It’s about understanding the “why” behind what you do and how it aligns with your values and beliefs.

How your WHY is unique to you.

The why behind a goal can differ from person to person. For instance:

1. If your goal is better health, your why might be to:
   
   • travel
   • attract a partner
   • live longer
   • reduce hospital visits
   • hike.
2. If your goal is a shorter hospital stay, your why might be to:
   
   • care for pets
   • cut costs
   • protect your home.

These examples reveal that meaning is deeply personal; it’s what makes an action significant to you.

Meaning vs purpose | Clearing the confusion

Since meaning and purpose are often used interchangeably — and because meaning is the most abstract of the three — it might help to clarify the difference.

Watch the video | Educational community

This educational video from the University of Michigan that makes the distinction clear.

A personal story

To ground these ideas further, I’ll share a simple everyday story about our storm door. It shows how even ordinary decisions become easier once you begin weaving passion, purpose, and meaning into daily life.

From Corvette dreams to storm door choices | Marie’s personal story

My husband and I spent a lot of time researching the pros and cons of installing a storm door for our front entrance. A little background: we live in northern Ontario, where winter temperatures can drop to -40°C. Our existing steel front door was still functional, but it was starting to look outdated.

Passion: We weren’t exactly passionate about installing a storm door. Our real passion was taking a road trip in the Corvette to the Grand Canyon and along the California coast.

Purpose: The purpose behind installing the storm door was part of a larger goal—securing our home while we were away. Along with a neighborhood watch system, we planned to install automated lights and curtains, digital locks, security cameras, and motion sensors to detect water damage or break-ins.

Meaning: When making difficult decisions that involve spending money, we always turn to our core values. For us, health and safety come first. If we ever question whether we’re making the right choice, this guiding principle brings us peace of mind, even if it means delaying something that is more fun!

Now, let’s shift the focus to something deeply personal — how you can find joy in your own life with a simple ranking system.

Joy by the numbers

(But not too seriously)

While passion, purpose, and meaning are deeply connected, each plays a separate role in shaping your choices. Passion fuels excitement and joy. Purpose provides direction and motivation. Meaning helps you understand and connect to something greater than yourself.

How you rank these elements — whether you balance them equally at 33/33/33 or lean more heavily into purpose at 10/60/30 — will greatly influence your happiness.

The weight you assign to each is uniquely personal, shaped by your values, life experiences, and aspirations. There is no right or wrong formula; it’s the one that feels right for you.

Choose with intention

To choose your next chapter carefully and with intention, ask yourself this simple question:

How much weight will I assign to passion, purpose, and meaning?

Passion lifts you | It sparks joy and enthusiasm.

Purpose steadies you | It helps you move toward what matters.

Meaning grounds you | It helps you understand why it matters.

Finding joy is about combining passion, purpose, and meaning in exactly the right formula for you. It’s going to be different for everyone.

For example, some will focus more on values; others will focus on passion and excitement. And some, like Frankl, will focus on meaning.

Viktor E. Frankl

Viktor E. Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist, illustrated the profound impact of meaning in his book Man’s Search for Meaning. He argued that even in the face of unimaginable suffering, those who found meaning were more resilient. Frankl wrote:

Those who have a why to live, can bear almost any how.

Frankl, who survived unspeakable horrors, discovered that meaning is not found in circumstances but in how we respond to them. Whether through love, service, or personal growth, meaning gives us resilience to keep going when times are tough.

And on good days?
Your “why ” will inspire you to achieve great things.